Falling in Love and Loving Someone

[AwesomeGuy]

They say that when you love someone it means that you are giving him or her the power to control and maybe hurt you, it has some truth to it. But here I will talk about how I see the difference between falling in love with someone or loving that person.



Love is a feeling, its not a knowledge of a person like most people say, or liek they have told me before: "I have to know you first" or "How can I love someone that I don't know things about him"; to tell you the truth love is not concerned with your knowledge of that person, or what does he do or where is he from or what his likes and dislikes.



Whenever we meet someone for the first time, we can tell exactly how far we want to go with him/her in the first five minutes, the moment you decide -if you could, and if you want to -love him or her, but then it may take sometimes to realize and identify your feelings. Any guy can convince any girl with 100 ways; he can convince her with his looks, money, power, family, education, car..etc, but trust me on this if a guy has all of the above; the looks the money ..etc, but then he meets a girl that has no feelings for him, then nothing in the whole world would change that, he would only be cheating himself thinking that he can make or force her to love him.



So, again why do we need to know a person to love him, if you love someone, it wont make a difference where he lives, or what does his family do, or how much money he has, and of course this is the case of love not husband hunting, and when you love someone, you would love everything about him regardless, so why does she care to know information about me if she can feel me and feel my vibes toward her too.



Back to the title of this post, being in love with someone or loving that person; this is how it starts from my point of view, it always starts with falling in love with a person, you don't actually fall in love with him or her for their sake, but you are in love for the love itself, you fall in love with the feelings, the attention, the late phone calls, the sms, just knowing that there is someone thinking of you and missing you gives you the feeling of the rush of being in love, you love waking up knowing he gave you few missed calls, or an sms, so this is how it all starts, falling in love, then step by step you would start getting in sync with that person, being closer and around him more, so after few months, or weeks or days, most of the people who are in love start to fall out of love, cause then you came to the conclusion that this is not the person I want to be around all the times.



The rest of you will go to the second phase of love, that is loving the person for himself, you start living to love that person, you love everything about him, his name and all names that are close to his, you start loving his voice, his looks, what he wears, and paying attention and memorizing your small talks with him, and reading his old text messages on your mobile phone over and over again night and day; he will be the first thing you think of when you first open your eyes in the morning, and the last whispers you hear right before you close your eyes and fall asleep at night.



You would start counting minutes, counting calls, counting sms, and when the time comes for your meeting with him, you would feel your heart pounding fast, almost dropping to your feet, you would feel the whole place around you is revolving and you feel out of breath, and you feel your body shaking, and the seconds pass like hours, and finally when he arrives you extend your hand to shake with his, and you know that the look in your eyes gave you away to him, and it told on you how much you were hungry to see him, and your cold hand told his hand how much it needs his warmth, at this moment you know you gave up your power and your will, and you gave him full permission to hurt you; or to make you the happiest person on earth.



Loving someone is forever, it does not die, and it only happens once in your lifetime, you start thinking alike, you liking the things you never thought you would consider before just because he likes them, you start having same opinions, same thoughts and even same style of clothing and living. You could be in a room full of people or at the mall, and then someone calls out a name that is the same as his, and unintentionally your heart starts pounding and your head moves around looking for that name, and you feel a wave of love running through you just like the time he ran his fingers through your hair the very last time you were together



The time when he is residing and living in your heart and within your soul; is the time you realize that either of you would never say a word or do something to hurt the other on purpose. You would start making up excuses for the other for something he did or say that left you hurt or made you sad. You would make the most far-fetched and bizarre excuses for him and would convince yourself that this is the truth. The cruel moment that you could not find a reason for something hurtful he did or say to you, at that moment that you could not excuse him for that and could not forgive him is the moment you come to the realization that your love has changed, and you start to come out of your denial, at that moment love could well turn into hatred in the same amount of the love you had for him; refer to Newton's third law, but this is a whole new subject to talk about maybe later on.

thank u awesome guy..but i think that the knowledge is important in such relationships especially if it is aimed to be a life long ones..coz u cant just know how good this person is or how bad..

the part u said about the ability to decide if u want this person or not during the very first moments in the first meeting is very true..i beleive in this..when someone forces him/her self to love someone or even convinces him/her self about her/him,he/she wod be wrong,coz this will not last for long time..sooner or later,he or she wod have the same same feeling he or she had in the first step..these are souls..

thank u again

and welcome to mahjoob :-emb:

No Commento Ameego, bas welcome 2 m7joob nd have funnnnn..!!!

[AwesomeGuy]

thank you guys for welcoming me here, I found out the hardway it is safer here to post non-controversial subjects rather than the controversial ones, so thanks again, and as fas as the knowledge of a person before loving him I said that there is a difference between wanting to fall in love or wanting a husband-wannabe intreview, you see True love is great if it ended in marriage, but marriage does not necessarily need love, where love is only a small element among many to make and build a successful marriage, elements such as, respect, compatibility, social and economic situations, responsibilities..etc, you only need to like a person and with time he or she will grow on you and you get used to them, yet again the post i wrote was about love and only feelings of love and what comes with it.

Originally Posted by AwesomeGuy

thank you guys for welcoming me here, I found out the hardway to post non-controversial subject rather than the controversial ones, so thanks again, and as fas as the knowledge of a person before loving him I said that there is a difference between wanting to fall in love or wanting a husband-wannabe intreview, you see True love is great if it ended in marriage, but marriage does not necessarily need love, where love is only a small element among many to make and build a successful marriage, elements such as, respect, compatibility, social and economic situations, responsibilities..etc, you only need to like a person and with time he or she will grow on you and you get used to them, yet again the post i wrote was about love and only feelings of love and what comes with it.

i understand this

i wish every love story wod be ended with marriage..bcoz these two very compatible persons must be with eachothers for ever!

thank u again..

[Desert Rose]

lovely

very touching

[Rashoood]

Great post


thanks

[Em_Rass]

Originally Posted by AwesomeGuy

They say that when you love someone it means that you are giving him or her the power to control and maybe hurt you, it has some truth to it. But here I will talk about how I see the difference between falling in love with someone or loving that person. Love is a feeling, its not knowledge of a person like most people say, or told me "I have to know you first" or "How can I love someone I dont know things about him", to tell you the truth love is not concerned with knowledge of that person, or what does he do or where he is from or what his likes and dislikes. when we meet someone for the first time, we can tell how far we want to go with him/her in the first five minutes, the moment you decide -if you could, and if you want to -love him or her, but then it may take sometimes to realize and identify your feelings. Any guy can convince any girl with 100 ways, he can convince her with his looks, money, power, family, education, car..etc, but trust me on this if a guy has all of the above; the looks the money ..etc, and he meets a girl that has no feelings for him, nothing in the world would change that, he would only be cheating himself if he thinks he can force her to love him. so again why do we need to know a person to love him, if you love someone, it wont make a difference where he lives, or what does his family do, or how much money he has, and of course this is the case of love not husband hunting, and when you love someone, you would love everything about him regardless, so why does she care to know information about me if she can feel me and feel my vibes to her too. Back to the title for this post, being in love with someone or loving that someone, this is how it starts from my point of view, it always starts with falling in love with a person, you dont actually fall in love with him or her for thier sake, but you are in love for the love itself, you fall in love with the feeling, the attention, the late phone calls, the sms, just knowing that there is someone thinking of you and missing you gives you the feeling of the rush of being in love, you love waking up knowing he gave you few missed calls, or an sms, so this is how it all starts, falling in love, then step by step you would start getting in sync with that person, being closer and around him more, so after few months, or weeks or days, most of the people who are in love start to fall out of love, cause you came to a conclusion this is not the person i want to be around all the times, and the rest of you will go to the second phase of love, that is loving the person himself, you start living to love that person, you love everything about him, his name and all names that are close to his name, you start loving his voice, his looks, what he wears, and paying attention and memorizing your small talks with him, he will be the first thing you think of when you first open your eyes in the morning, and the last thing you dream of before you close your eyes to sleep at night, you start counting minutes, counting calls, counting sms, and when the time comes for your meeting with him, you would feel your heart pounding fast, almost dropping to your feet, you would feel the whole palce around you is revolving and you feel out of breat, and you feel your body shaking, and you seconds pass like hours, and finally when he arrives you extend your hand to shake with his, and you know that the look in your eyes gave you away, and it told on you how much you were hungry to see him, and your cold hand told his hand how much it needs his warmth, at this moment you know you gave up your power and your will, and you gave him full permission to hurt you..or to make you the happiest person on eart. Loving someone is forever, it does not die, and it only happens once in your lifetime, you start thinking alike, you like things you never thought you would just cause he likes them, you start having same opinions, same thoughts and even same style of clothing and living. You could be in a room full of people or at the mall, and then someone calls out a name that is the same as your lovers name, and unintentially your heart starts pounding and your head moves around looking for that name, and you feel a wave of love running through you just like the time he ran his fingers through your hair the last time you were together.

Marvelous!!

[AwesomeGuy]

Thank you all so much for a nice acceptance and welcome by you all, and pushes me to share my ideas and opinions more inshallah. :-emb:

[saraontheverge]

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There's a part of me that totally agrees with u but if only loving someone stays that simple and sometimes knowing someone doesnot have to do with just who they are or their position but knowing wat makes them click or cry or smile or even get ugly rashes or something more disastrous and knowing someone is also abt falling in loveu can't seprate the two. In the end it's the intention that matters and why u wish to know someone.
See ya

[AwesomeGuy]

Originally Posted by AwesomeGuy

it always starts with falling in love with a person, you dont actually fall in love with him or her for thier sake, but you are in love for the love itself, you fall in love with the feeling, the attention, the late phone calls, the sms, just knowing that there is someone thinking of you and missing you gives you the feeling of the rush of being in love, you love waking up knowing he gave you few missed calls, or an sms, so this is how it all starts, falling in love, then step by step you would start getting in sync with that person, being closer and around him more, so after few months, or weeks or days, most of the people who are in love start to fall out of love, cause you came to a conclusion this is not the person i want to be around all the times, and the rest of you will go to the second phase of love, that is loving the person himself, you start living to love that person, you love everything about him,

To me kowing someone falls when you are in a state of being in love with that person like i said above, after you know what you know about that person, the things you mentioned, then they decide to go on to loving each other as individuals for who they are in real, or decide to disconnect from that state of being in love and eventually fall out of love ( at this point she will tell him let's be friends hheheh), anyways so feelings with knowledge of that person combined make a great recipe for a promising love story.

[Aurrora]

Awesome,
touching,
and put in words nicly

Thanx for sharing

[SleeplessBat]

beautiful man....great explanation of one of the greatest mysteries....loving another without knowing them!

Welcome Awesome Guy

[Lasto Adri]

Hey Awesome,
Perfect, simple, honest,and direct!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love like you've never been loved before,,,no comment really
I can sense lots of wisdom, maturity, and confidence in your words. Thank you for sharing them out here:))))

[AwesomeGuy]

Originally Posted by Lasto Adri

Love like you've never been loved before,,,no comment really

mmm .. been there .. done that..and dont think im going near it again :)
like they say once bitten ..twice is shy .. ya3ne la yaldugh min jo7ren wa7ad maratayn..

[Outsider]

Originally Posted by AwesomeGuy

They say that when you love someone it means that you are giving him or her the power to control and maybe hurt you, it has some truth to it. But here I will talk about how I see the difference between falling in love with someone or loving that person.

Love is a feeling, its not knowledge of a person like most people say, or told me "I have to know you first" or "How can I love someone I dont know things about him", to tell you the truth love is not concerned with knowledge of that person, or what does he do or where he is from or what his likes and dislikes.

Whenever we meet someone for the first time, we can tell how far we want to go with him/her in the first five minutes, the moment you decide -if you could, and if you want to -love him or her, but then it may take sometimes to realize and identify your feelings. Any guy can convince any girl with 100 ways, he can convince her with his looks, money, power, family, education, car..etc, but trust me on this if a guy has all of the above; the looks the money ..etc, and he meets a girl that has no feelings for him, nothing in the world would change that, he would only be cheating himself if he thinks he can force her to love him.

So, again why do we need to know a person to love him, if you love someone, it wont make a difference where he lives, or what does his family do, or how much money he has, and of course this is the case of love not husband hunting, and when you love someone, you would love everything about him regardless, so why does she care to know information about me if she can feel me and feel my vibes to her too.

Back to the title for this post, being in love with someone or loving that someone, this is how it starts from my point of view, it always starts with falling in love with a person, you dont actually fall in love with him or her for thier sake, but you are in love for the love itself, you fall in love with the feeling, the attention, the late phone calls, the sms, just knowing that there is someone thinking of you and missing you gives you the feeling of the rush of being in love, you love waking up knowing he gave you few missed calls, or an sms, so this is how it all starts, falling in love, then step by step you would start getting in sync with that person, being closer and around him more, so after few months, or weeks or days, most of the people who are in love start to fall out of love, cause you came to a conclusion this is not the person i want to be around all the times, and the rest of you will go to the second phase of love, that is loving the person himself, you start living to love that person, you love everything about him, his name and all names that are close to his name, you start loving his voice, his looks, what he wears, and paying attention and memorizing your small talks with him, he will be the first thing you think of when you first open your eyes in the morning, and the last thing you dream of before you close your eyes to sleep at night.

You would start counting minutes, counting calls, counting sms, and when the time comes for your meeting with him, you would feel your heart pounding fast, almost dropping to your feet, you would feel the whole palce around you is revolving and you feel out of breat, and you feel your body shaking, and you seconds pass like hours, and finally when he arrives you extend your hand to shake with his, and you know that the look in your eyes gave you away, and it told on you how much you were hungry to see him, and your cold hand told his hand how much it needs his warmth, at this moment you know you gave up your power and your will, and you gave him full permission to hurt you..or to make you the happiest person on eart.

Loving someone is forever, it does not die, and it only happens once in your lifetime, you start thinking alike, you like things you never thought you would just cause he likes them, you start having same opinions, same thoughts and even same style of clothing and living. You could be in a room full of people or at the mall, and then someone calls out a name that is the same as your lovers name, and unintentially your heart starts pounding and your head moves around looking for that name, and you feel a wave of love running through you just like the time he ran his fingers through your hair the last time you were together.

****.... Unbelievably true

RESPECT!

[Sonnilion]

"and finally when he arrives you extend your hand to shake with his, and you know that the look in your eyes gave you away, and it told on you how much you were hungry to see him, and your cold hand told his hand how much it needs his warmth, at this moment you know you gave up your power and your will, and you gave him full permission to hurt you..or to make you the happiest person on eart"

Wow that bit is absolutely beautiful..
What an absolutely fantastic thread, thanks for sharing!

[algoo]

thank u


it was so sweet

[reem02]

agree with uuuuu but there is no love now son>>>

[Outsider]

Originally Posted by reem02

agree with uuuuu but there is no love now son>>>

ghaltane

[AwesomeGuy]

well again i am so overwhelmed and appreciative of your replies.
If you failed love - since love does not fail people, then the problem with you and your lover. The reason i am sure of this is because lots of hundreds and millions of guys fell in love and succeeded in it. its never written for all love relations to be happy and suffer-free. if you ask me love without suffering and little heartaches wont be true love, it will be just another predictable affair. :)

[AwesomeGuy]

My Very first post, I edited it and added few things, hoping it wont be deleted soon.

[DoDoo]

Originally Posted by AwesomeGuy

My Very first post, I edited it and added few things, hoping it wont be deleted soon.

If you don't delete it, it will not be deleted

[AwesomeGuy]

Originally Posted by DoDoo

If you don't delete it, it will not be deleted

no i like this one

its from da heart.. specially the thing about the sms .. fa this is not valid for the time before ikhtera3 el mobile

[DoDoo]

Originally Posted by AwesomeGuy

no i like this one

its from da heart.. specially the thing about the sms .. fa this is not valid for the time before ikhtera3 el mobile

Iy is ok, that time has passed already long time ago, there were normal letters then

But really nice one